A husband has been slammed online and called ‘immature’ after giving his pregnant wife crockery for Christmas.
In a post on Reddit, user u/eighteightfivesix explained that she expected to receive jewelry for the holiday but was devastated when all she got was a set of pots and pans.
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The pregnant mum took to the r/Mommit subreddit to share her disappointment – she described how her husband had asked if she wanted jewelry – and raised her hopes.
But when Christmas came, the only thing that sparkled was the festive lights.
“Why would he ask that when he can just buy me a set of pots and pans,” she said.
“I love kitchen utensils but the house needed pots and pans so we were going to buy them anyway.
“I wanted something glittery, damn it.”
The mother added that she thought she might just be “overly emotional” because she’s “25 weeks pregnant with her second child.”
However, at a family dinner, her feelings were confirmed by an unimpressed aunt, who called the gift “brave.”
“We went to my parents’ house for Christmas dinner and when we opened our Christmas cookies, mine had a set of measuring spoons in it,” she recalls.
“I jokingly said ‘oh perfect, they match my pot and pan set’. He replied, “I knew you were upset about the pots and pans!!”
“And then my aunt said, ‘Do you have her pots and pans? That’s brave. Especially since she’s carrying a baby.
Her husband’s answer made the mother-to-be excited – and gave her hope again.
“Well, Christmas isn’t over yet,” he said.
Later that night her husband took her aside to defend the gift.
“He later spoke to me privately and said what a good price they were and how we needed them,” she recalled.
“I agreed and honestly I didn’t care at the time because he heavily implied that ‘Christmas isn’t over yet’.”
She further assured him that she liked the gift as they drove home, but her husband just sat in silence.
“On the drive home, I said, ‘I really like her and I’m trying not to seem ungrateful. You just got my hopes up by saying you would get me jewelry,” she explained.
“He didn’t say anything and didn’t speak to me all night. I asked him what was going on and he said, “It doesn’t matter, there’s nothing I can do about it,” and didn’t elaborate.
“Since radio silence.”
“I feel so stupid and confused.”
The mum was confused — she took to Reddit and asked, “What happened? I feel so stupid and confused.”
Many took to the comments section to comfort the mother and slam the husband for his “immature” response.
“You haven’t done anything wrong here, and he’s acting this way to make you feel bad so he doesn’t have to. Don’t fall for his bullsh*t,” one said.
“He said ‘Christmas isn’t over yet’ in front of other people so he wouldn’t look like an asshole to them. But he didn’t really have a plan, he just wanted to save face,” wrote another.
With a third launching a savage attack: “Your husband is an immature d*** – now his ego’s bruised and he’s sulking and giving up the silent treatment because nobody liked his shit gift.”
While some mocked the husband’s reaction, many took aim at the unassuming gift – suggesting it was sexist.
“A household gift with an accompaniment of gender stereotyping… It’s not a gift for him, although I’m sure he intends to eat when he’s not actually cooking or cleaning the cookware,” said one user.
“Household items don’t make nice gifts unless you specifically asked for them,” commented another.
“A household necessities is not a gift for wife/mother,” explained a third.
One user even suggested that they should have bought a gift card to make up for it.
“If he understood and cared, he could take 10 minutes to grab his phone, order a gift card, print it out, and give you a real gift.”
However, some users defended the gift, sharing their own experiences of buying or receiving “household items” for Christmas and birthdays.
“I asked for a Dyson a year ago and was LOVED when I actually got it! But then my family started making it difficult for my husband to buy me a vacuum cleaner, so I had to like it and prove how lucky I was,” said one woman.
Another user spoke of buying his husband “non-stick pans” for his birthday and “kitchen utensils/grills” for Christmas.
They added: “Is that ok because it was a woman giving it to a man?
“Rather than think of it as gender roles, why can’t people see the gift for purpose – to make some part of someone’s day-to-day life easier/enjoyable with better tools/materials?” a third said.
Ruined husband’s Christmas plans
The mother returned to Reddit in a follow-up post and explained that her husband had apologized.
He reportedly had “something planned,” but a massive snowstorm ruined the day.
“It should be ready 2 days before Christmas. We had a massive snowstorm and he never lied to me, so I believe that,” she said.
“He also said ‘today was supposed to be so different’ and he was like ‘Christmas isn’t over yet’ because I hadn’t got my present yet.
“Then he said it was stupid because it came out wrong.”
She went on to say she believes the gift could be an engagement ring.
“We’re married but I never got an engagement ring because we were broke at the time, new parents so I’m thinking gggggg it could be a ring.
I don’t really understand why otherwise something like a necklace wouldn’t be “finished”.
“I guess we’ll see!!”
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